Each of us is fighting a battle that no one knows about.
Many of us know what we want our lives to look like on the outside. Sometimes, though, the Journey to get from where we are in the moment, to where that is… It can sometimes be an extremely challenging one. Especially, if we have subconscious thoughts or beliefs about ourselves that are working against us.
I’ve been there.
In fact, I’ve been wrestling with my own doubts this week. Experiencing moments of discouragement, myself.
It happens to the best of us! I don’t believe any of us are immune to it.
But what do we do in instances like these?
Become Your Own Cheerleader
The motivational speaker, Les Brown, tells us to “fortify” ourselves.
“Monitor your inner conversation”, and “talk to yourself”.
“Sometimes the only good things you will hear about you are the things you say to you.”
“Learn to be your own booster. Start building yourself up. Start encouraging yourself. Start saying, ‘I can do this!’.” [Click here to listen to the whole motivational speech.]
And it stands to reason, doesn’t it?
After all, we are the only person who is with us 24/7/365.
One of the most recent studies done on the subject say we have approximately 6,000 thoughts a day.
Most of us are – likely – unaware of the vast majority of those thoughts, though.
What if we were to become more cognizant of them?
What if we used them to build ourselves (and others) up, rather than tearing us down?
Shad Helmstetter, author of What To Say When You Talk to Yourself, tells us:
“You will become what you think about most; your success or failure in anything, large or small, will depend on your programming – what you accept from others, and what you say when you talk to yourself.”
“It is no longer a success theory; it is a simple but powerful fact. Neither luck nor desire has the slightest thing to do with it. It makes no difference whether we believe it or not. The brain simply believes what you tell it most. And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice.”
What Should I Say to Myself?
So, you’re probably wondering, ‘what should I say to myself, then?’
Shad Helmstetter shares something in his book that Abraham (of Abraham-Hicks fame) might call a rampage of encouragement:
“I can do anything I believe I can do! I’ve got it, and every day I get more of it. I have talent, skills, and ability. I set goals and I reach them. I know what I want out of life. I go after it and I get it. People like me, and I feel good about myself. I have a sense of pride in who I am, and I believe in myself. Nothing seems to stop me. I have a lot of determination. I turn problems into advantages. I find possibilities in things that other people never give a chance. I have a lot of energy—I am very alive! I enjoy life and I can tell it and so can others. I keep myself up, looking ahead, and liking it. I know that I can accomplish anything I choose, and I refuse to let anything negative hold me back or stand in my way.”
There is A LOT more to it!
If it resonates with you, and you’d like to read the rest, please click here to view the whole quote.
Release Your Expectations
As I was sitting with my feelings earlier this week, I decided to do something “mundane” like clean out my inbox. As I did so, I came across a post from George Kao.
I’d read it before, but it was definitely something I needed to be reminded of.
Someone asked him, “How do you stay with such a regimented schedule… yet remain calm and joyful as you work?”
He shared his own practice of being “strict about showing up” and “lenient about results”. In addition, he’s “gentle” about bringing himself “back to focus, again and again”.
Now, George is an Authentic Business Coach, but these practices can assist us in any area of our lives.
By showing up, consistently, day after day, we begin to make headway in whatever goal or dream we hold in our hearts.
Actions we perform through repetition, not only do we get better at it, but it – eventually – becomes like second nature to us.
When we are gentle with ourselves, meaning without self-judgement of ourselves or what we produce, we give ourselves to expand and grow.
One wouldn’t ridicule a toddler for falling down when they are first learning to walk, would they?
Of course not!
But, yet, how often do we treat ourselves with such compassion and understanding?
Become strict about showing up and lenient about the results.
Some days, you might “hit it out of the park”, and others, you’ll simply make a showing.
What’s most important is… you showed up. For yourself and others!
And that – sometimes – is all anyone can ask of us.
Until next time, Beautiful One, may you hit it out of the park more days than not! But ALWAYS show up for YOU!